"Sex, and your alive sense of love has different expressions or stages over time. You’ve likely seen these stages: “new love,” “being in love,” and even longer term attachment.
These are all experiences I’ve known to go well. And yet, as I became more self-aware, and was involved with more self-aware partners, I also had really difficult experiences come up.
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…sex would become a habit, leading to less aliveness, less connection, and even boredom. Ouch. At first this was baffling (and painful) to me. Then I saw a pattern, after growing past the fulfillment of having good sexual and emotional needs met, sharing similar outlooks on life, being there for each other, and even getting pretty good at conflict resolution and the like; now and then, some gaping chasms would show up out of nowhere. Or worse, sex would become a habit, leading to less aliveness, less connection, and even boredom. Ouch.
Have you experienced that? Do you even “expect it?” As in, “Love always dulls.”
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For a while, me too. But being somewhat of a fan of the more mystical aspects of life, “What is awareness and sense-of-self, how does love arise, what makes sex so interesting and satisfying, etc.?” Over the years I’ve also come to see how sex and love – let’s say sexual-love – can really benefit from two core competencies.
One is knowledge of sexual energy (which requires some solid anatomical skills as well), this involves a higher-awareness of the experience or perception of the sex you are having. The other is a kind of mindfulness, and a cultivated higher sense of self or Presence – and how to share this – this can induce a big shift in your experience of love.
Hmmm? What is all this? That was my take when I really dove into this domain. What I learned is there is a lot of useful and solid material: Physical sexual skill, tantric skills with sexual energy, psychological health, and awareness of higher-self.
What I also found was this: as you grow and start doing meditation and mindfulness; good sex, comfortable love and companionship increasingly don’t cut-it.
Ergonomics. 1985 Jul;28(7):965-75. Falls in the healthy elderly: predisposing causes.
Gabell A, Simons MA, Nayak US.
One hundred healthy men and women aged 65-85 took part in a prospective study. They were clinically examined and underwent laboratory tests of gait, balance and reaction time at the start of an observation year.
All falls occurring in that year were analysed in detail. Three-quarters of them were trips or slips; however, ten personal factors were identified which, if present, increased the likelihood of a fall occurring. These were: disturbance of gait following a rest period accompanied by a lighting change (in persons aged 70 and over); an absent or abnormal plantar reflex; failure to wear prescribed spectacles; the presence of anxiety/depression, of a foot problem, or of two or more self-perceived limitations on mobility; a history of former wearing of high heels; a sustained drop in pulse pressure 5 min after cessation of a rest period; restricted neck movements; and the presence of an inverse Romberg ratio.
The number of circumstantial and personal factors contributing to the falls varied between three and twelve.
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