Making Love is Meditation, Encourage Her to Develop Her Sexual Voice, Never Lose Connection, Sex is More than Penetration, and How to Have Great Sex


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Alex Grey, The Kiss
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Pleasure in Other Ways
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  1. “Making love is meditation. It is sacred, it is the holiest of holies. So while you are making love to a man go very slowly… with taste, taking in every flavour of it. And very slowly: there is no hurry, no need to hurry; enough time is there.” Osho
  2. “The second guiding strategy is the woman is encouraged to develop her “sexual voice” so that she can request the type and sequence of touching and erotic scenarios that promote her sexual receptivity and responsivity. So much of female sexuality is in reaction to the male’s sexual initiatives. “Foreplay” is to get the woman ready for intercourse, it is the man who decides when to transition to intercourse. Female sexuality is more variable and complex than male sexuality. This does not mean better or worse, just different. Women appreciate the concept of “nondemanding pleasuring rather than “foreplay.” Pleasuring recognizes the importance of touching for its own sake, inside and outside the bedroom, nongenital and genital touch, and that not all touching leads to intercourse. The woman’s “sexual voice” means that her sensual and erotic feelings and needs are as important as the man’s. She can proceed at her pace rather than the sexual scenario being driven by the man’s erection and needs. Especially important is the recognition that sensuality is the underpinning of sexual response. Pleasuring involves mutual give and take, not his “working on her.” She can decide when and how to transition from pleasuring to eroticism and when to transition to intercourse. Also, she decides whether she wants to give or receive multiple stimulation during intercourse.” John H. Harvey, The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships: Strategies and Techniques for Female Sexual Dysfunction
  3. “Connection: This is about physical and emotional contact. Pleasing a woman, make sure that you should never lose the connection. If you are face-to-face look into her eyes, eye contact makes every love-making special. Pay attention to her moves and her breathing, it will direct your next move. Better yet, ask her what she wants. Also be sure to keep a part of your body in contact with her. For instance, if you want to change positions and you need to remove both hands, keep your legs pressed against her. And so on.” Ruth Purple, The Abc’s Of Pleasing A Woman Sexually
  4. “…exploring other ways to pleasure your partner is a useful way to make sex more enjoyable for any couple. Making sex a slow and luxurious experience could improve sexual and relationship satisfaction drastically. Allow time for a breather during sex by using other techniques to arouse your lover. Encourage your lover to find other ways of enjoying your body that doesn’t always include penetration. Show them what else they can do to arouse you and bring more intensity to your sexual experiences.” Gia Ravazzotti, Pleasuring Your Woman: Sex is More than Penetration

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