Passionate Love Making is not just Physically Felt but Seen and Heard, If you Really Love Someone, Cook for Them, Sex and Food with George Costanza, and Erotic Play and Imagination with Esther Perel


Seinfeld Food and Sex
Seinfeld, Season 09, Episode 04, “The Blood”
  1. “Sex without love is as hollow and ridiculous as love without sex.” Hunter S.​ ​Thompson
  2. “Anyone who is in love is making love the whole time, even when they’re not. When two bodies meet, it is just the cup overflowing. They can stay together for hours, even days. They begin the dance one day and finish it the next, or–such is the pleasure they experience–they may never finish it. No eleven minutes for them.”​ ​Paulo Coelho, Eleven Minutes
  3. “Anyone who is observant, who discovers the person they have always dreamed of, knows that sexual energy comes into play before sex even takes place. The greatest pleasure isn’t sex, but the passion with which it is practiced. When the passion is intense, then sex joins in to complete the dance, but it is never the principal aim.”​ ​Paulo Coelho
  4. “Sex is an emotion in motion.”​ ​Mae West
  5. “Love is blind, they say; sex is impervious to reason and mocks the power of all philosophers. But, in fact, a person’s sexual choice is the result and sum of their fundamental convictions. Tell me what a person finds sexually attractive and I will tell you their entire philosophy of life. Show me the person they sleep with and I will tell you their valuation of themselves. No matter what corruption they’re taught about the virtue of selflessness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which they cannot perform for any motive but their own enjoyment – just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity! – an act which is not possible in self-abasement, only in self-exultation, only on the confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire. It is an act that forces them to stand naked in spirit, as well as in body, and accept their real ego as their standard of value. They will always be attracted to the person who reflects their deepest vision of themselves, the person whose surrender permits them to experience – or to fake – a sense of self-esteem .. Love is our response to our highest values – and can be nothing else.”​ ​Ayn Rand
  6. “For women, the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time.” Isabel Allende, Of Love and Shadows
  7. “If a man can possess a woman sexually -really possess- he won’t need to control her ideas, her opinions, her clothes, her friends, even her other lovers.”​ ​Toni Bentley
  8. “So she thoroughly taught him that one cannot take pleasure without giving pleasure, and that every gesture, every caress, every touch, every glance, every last bit of the body has its secret, which brings happiness to the person who knows how to wake it. She taught him that after a celebration of love the lovers should not part without admiring each other, without being conquered or having conquered, so that neither is bleak or glutted or has the bad feeling of being used or misused.”​ ​Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha
  9. “Sex is always about emotions. Good sex is about free emotions; bad sex is about blocked emotions.”​ ​Deepak Chopra
  10. “A gentleman holds my hand.
    A man pulls my hair.
    A soulmate will do both.”​ ​Alessandra Torre
  11. “Love is giving up control. It’s surrendering the desire to control the other person. The two—love and controlling power over the other person—are mutually exclusive. If we are serious about loving someone, we have to surrender all the desires within us to manipulate the relationship.”​ ​Rob Bell, Sex God: Exploring the Endless Connections Between Sexuality and Spirituality
  12. “The eyes are one of the most powerful tools a woman can have. With one look, she can relay the most intimate message. After the connection is made, words cease to exist.”​ ​Jennifer Salaiz
  13. “When you are secure in yourself, know what turns you on, and enjoy watching your partner watch you experience sexual pleasure, you have a highly novel relationship grounded in love. The experience of seeing and being seen fuels lust and desire. This is exactly the way you integrate healthy lust and love into your sex life. It’s relational sex, not the old pornographic sex of past addictions.” Alexandra Katehakis, Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction
  14. “You are like a god, like an immortal one,’ she whispered to me one night in our bed, her naked body pressed to mine, our sweat golden and glistening in the candlelight. ‘Oh, my love,’ I whispered back to her, ‘I am more mortal than all. It seems that a part of me dies every night that I lie with you.” Roman Payne
  15. “Ô, Muse of the Heart’s Passion,
    let me relive my Love’s memory,
    to remember her body, so brave and so free,
    and the sound of my Dreameress singing to me,
    and the scent of my Dreameress sleeping by me,
    Ô, sing, sweet Muse, my soliloquy!” Roman Payne
  16. “Making love is not something you do to someone―it’s something you share. Lovemaking between men and women should be mutually pleasurably. Both women and men should be fully and completely satisfied.” J.F. Kelly, A Woman’s Pleasure
  17. “Lovemaking takes time! It is a myth for lovemaking to be quick and smooth. To find pleasure in each other, both men and women need to take time to explore each other with their hands; their lips and they need to be open to each other in a mutual, consensual, and non-judgmental style.” J.F. Kelly, A Woman’s Pleasure
  18. “Men need to realize that women take longer to get aroused and satisfied – sometimes 6 -8 times longer. Make the journey pleasurable.” J.F. Kelly, A Woman’s Pleasure
  19. “I would like to make love to you every day, Sween. Several times. To take time to indulge in long foreplays, from playing games to cover each other in food and lick it away, and then on to long sessions of lovemaking… In the morning… In the afternoon… At night… Soft, intense, loving, lustful, kinky… Everything. I want us to try everything.” Haru Ichiban, Forbidden
  20. “He never spoke a word; yet my entire body was aflame. With shameful joy in my heart, I trembled as I moved against his hands, seeking more of the delicious rapture he was giving me. He played me like a stringed instrument, awakening within me a harmony that I had never known existed, producing profound and unimagined tunes.
    When I felt him enter me I clung to him, pressing him ever closer, our two bodies fused as one. As he moved with me towards the brink of ecstasy, I was overwhelmed by an intense need that until that moment had never been recognized. All at once, just as I heard his own fevered exclamation, I felt the core of my womanhood explode with pleasure, as if my body had splintered into a thousand brilliant fragments of sensation and light.” Syrie James, Dracula, My Love: The Secret Journals of Mina Harker
  21. “We thought everything would be forgotten, but I still remember your claws running down my back. I wonder if you still think about us, the way I do. How our legs would crash into each other in the middle of the night, and how we ended up creating the moon in the confines of our beds.” Zaeema J. Hussain, The Sky Is Purple
  22. “Love making is much more than physical expression, it is a soulful dance of sensual wonder and euphoric amazement.” T.F. Hodge, From Within I Rise: Spiritual Triumph Over Death and Conscious Encounters with “The Divine Presence”
  23. “Sex is not just about going in or letting in, it is really about welcoming your dearly beloved into the deepest regions of your psyche which are inaccessible to anybody else.” Abhijit Naskar, Either Civilized or Phobic: A Treatise on Homosexuality
  24. “One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well.” Virginia Woolf
  25. “Food is symbolic of love when words are inadequate.” A lan D. Wolfelt
  26. “It’s absolutely unfair for women to say that guys only want one thing: sex. We also want food.” Jarod Kintz
  27. “If you really want to make a friend, go to someone’s house and eat with him…the people who give you their food give you their heart.” Cesar Chavez
  28. “My weaknesses have always been food and men—in that order.” Dolly Parton
  29. “Sharing food with another human being is an intimate act that should not be indulged in lightly.” M.F.K. Fisher
  30. “Great food is like great sex. The more you have the more you want.” Gael Greene
  31. “There is no sight on earth more appealing than the sight of a woman making dinner for someone she loves.” Thomas Wolfe
  32. “There is no love sincerer than the love of food.” George Bernard Shaw
  33. “I’m at the age where food has taken the place of sex in my life. In fact, I’ve just had a mirror put over my kitchen table.” Rodney Dangerfield
  34. “Erotic Imagination and Play challenges and subverts the established order. Introduces discontinuity into reality and our usual way of understanding the world. It breaks the constrictedness caused by the oppression of everyday experience. The creative imagination is a transitional space. The erotic imagination breaks with habit, routine, narrowness, and our restricted ways of behaving in the relationship.” Esther Perel, Erotic Imagination and Play

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