Many people feel the need to look at what others eat and criticize them for eating “poorly”, just because they make choices that differ from their own personal beliefs and values. If this pertains to you, it’s worth contemplating, and reevaluating deeper reasons you may project such things.
It’s one thing to have a discussion, with equal respect and open ears about thoughts/ideas about nutrition, but another thing entirely to be a self proclaimed expert or guru who feels a need to impose their beliefs on others.
- “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.” Friedrich Nietzsche
I obviously think my way is the correct way (for me) or I wouldn’t do as I do, but I’m also always open to new information, flexible to see what works best for me. Personally, I eat the foods that I enjoy and that I believe benefit my health.
What my friends or strangers eat is up to them. I don’t take it personal, nor do I criticize what they eat or feel that I have to lecture them in any way to eat like me. It’s not my place to shame their choices. I’m aware it’s not my business, just as my choices aren’t theirs.
Let people live how they want to live and eat how they want to eat. We can and should still be friends despite differences, if not just being polite with one another regardless of how differently we eat, think, look, etc.
The only time I offer my opinions is if someone specifically asks for my advice or pays for my services.
“The crux of the problem is that we believe that if someone is “pro” something, it always makes them “anti” the other thing. In other words, because I try to eat healthy, I am secretly disgusted by a person who is overweight or who eats whatever she wants. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Our insecurities about our weight (or at least, those not endowed in us through the advertising industry) largely come from one another. Those who raise their eyebrows at another’s eating choices openly or secretly are part of the reason that most people (and almost all women) nurture a complicated relationship with food. This is a ridiculous notion, since most of us have no idea what’s right or not. Sugar’s the bad guy now, but before it was carbs and before that it was fat. Eggs, caffeine, lard and fruit — are these bad things? Who the hell knows. We’re basically winging it, from the shitty food pyramid’s top to bottom. Which means not a one of us is an expert.
Fat or skinny, we are all just struggling through life to be as healthy as we’re able and to live as long as possible. We want to be confident in how we look and to love ourselves. But the first step to accomplishing this goal is to ERASE our opinions on what other people put in their mouths. In the words of Kacey Musgraves “Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy.” Kel Campbell, It’s None of Your Business What People Put in Their Mouths