- “Essena admitted that she had always wanted to be popular on social media. She closely monitored other social media celebrities and tried to emulate them in order to build her own following. By posting glamorous shots of herself and her seemingly perfect life, she managed to reach her “goals”. Yet, despite having hundreds of thousands of followers on YouTube and Instagram, the teenage star confessed in one of her YouTube videos that instead of bringing her happiness, social media actually “consumed” her. And so, unable to cope with the pressure of having to continuously display her perfect life and perfect self, she shut down some of her media channels, while restructuring others to reflect her true self.
People with high self-confidence are less negatively affected by social media than are those whose self-confidence is lacking. By constantly comparing themselves to apparently perfect images online, social media users whose self-confidence is lacking can become more anxious or depressed over what others seem to have and they don’t. That nagging feeling of not being able to measure up will only lead to less self-confidence and an erosion of self-worth. Each log-in can chip away just a bit more of any good feeling a person might have had.
If you find you are impacted negatively by social media – “Why isn’t MY life like that?” – it might be time to reevaluate what it means to you and how you want to utilize it. It’s not necessary to opt out entirely, but take control of managing it. If you aren’t bothered by others’ perfect pictures, good for you! Just remember, like magazine pictures, it’s only a snapshot of someone’s life.” Beverly D. Flaxington, Seeking Validation Online Doesn’t Bring Real Happiness
- “What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others.” Confucius
- “The woman who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet.” Mohadesa Najumi
- “All bad behavior is really a request for love, attention, or validation.” Kimberly Giles, Choosing Clarity: The Path to Fearlessness
- “Belief in yourself is more important than endless worries of what others think of you. Value yourself and others will value you. Validation is best that comes from within.” Ngũgĩ wa Thiong’o, Dreams in a Time of War
- “Freedom on the inside comes when validation from the outside doesn’t matter.” Richie Norton
- “Seeking external validation brings disappointment. Validate yourself from within to find true happiness.” Amy Leigh Mercree, The Compassion Revolution: 30 Days of Living from the Heart